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Medical & Professionals Comment About Journey of HeartsTM Part 1

Among the most rewarding messages are those from other professionals who also deal with various losses—healthcare professionals, medical students, residents, physicians, nurses, ministers, highway patrol and police officers, funeral directors, social workers, hospice volunteers and caretakers. Many of those working in the field have discovered the site when they themselves have experienced a difficult loss and grief response, are looking for resources to cope, find Journey of HeartsTM, and then refer others. The selected comments that follow are grouped by professions.
I have read your article about "Caring for the person, not just the patient in End of Life Care", and found it really important. I am a doctor (endocrinologist) from Santa Cruz (Bolivia), and always trying to teach with the example the importance of seing the person and not only the patient or the disease. Your article will give me material to talk about the subject with residents and interns in the hospital where I work, and also your poem [Healers and Healing], that I will translate to Spanish.

Just wanted to share with you that there are people that think like you, that to touch and share with the ill person can give more strenght than only giving the drugs, I am witness of that.

And as you, I feel that the new generations need to talk about this and to practice every day. I had two profesors during my internship and residence that taught me to be respecful and compasive with the patients, and one of them told me "compasion is something you bring with yourself, it can't be taught", but if we can share our feelings and what we learned during these years caring for people with chronic diseases, we can make a difference in this world.

I have had experiences with cancer with family members and learned to understand the situation of the family, and how important is help to die with dignity and just be there, near the love one.

I wish you continue with your good work and being an example for us.
Best regards,

Roxana Barbero, MD
Endocrinology, Bolivia
I just found this website today by accident. I belong to the LUNG-ONC online support group and shared this site with our members.; I have to say that I was so touched and impressed by all the work done on this site for those of us who need the uplift and support. It is really interesting since I am the Cancer program Coordinator at Cottage Hospital and have been since 1990. I remember when you were a resident here. I don't know how you find the time to devote yourself to such a worthy cause but want you to know that it is greatly appreciated. Working in the oncology field where you deal in statistics all the time you tend to distance yourself from the patients. Boy does that change when you become one of your own statistics. It gives you a better understanding and compassion for others in the same situation. I really want to congratulate you on your wonderful contribution to us all.
Kala Curran
Cancer Program Coordinator
Cottage Hospital, Santa Barbara

Journey of Hearts has been a wonderful help in my ministry. It is touching and meaningful. These words of comfort will bring a peace to those who need it most. You can't possibly know all the peace that your site had brought to those are so desperately searching for an answer that eludes us all...temporarily ....
Thank you for your wonderful mission. In peace and hope......

Part 2: Some time ago I sent you comments about your wonderful web site. I still think it's quite wonderful and have linked you to my own web site.

Thanks Again, for your wonderful mission; you can't possibly know all the peace that your site had brought to those are so desperately searching for an answer that eludes us all...temporarily ....
In peace and hope......

Deacon Bob McGovern
Seton Hall University, New Jersey

Thanks for your wonderful service and material. I am using the messages. poems etc. in my counseling and pastoral ministry. Keep up the good work!.
Rev. Dr. Robert Fung, S.D. Cal.

Thank you very much for your efforts and hard work to develop and maintain a place of comfort in this world of challenges. I was searching the Internet for positive stories, words, or messages to support a dear friend who just had a radical mastectomy as a result of breast cancer. In your pages I found an absolute treasure chest.
Thank you very much for what you do on a daily basis to help people both in your practice and in your Web Page. You are obviously a very special person.
Warmly and appreciatively,
Captain Don Follett
California Highway Patrol
Monterey Area Commander

Thank you so much for your poem [Healers and Healing]. I am taking my Preventive Medicine Boards (for the first time) this Monday, and your poem eased my mind a little. I very much agree:

"Many good physicians and healers, who may not be able to practice medicine because they cannot pass their boards, and others who can pass their boards, but who should not be practicing medicine."

In fact, having changed career directions about 3 times now, I can truly say your poem gave words to what I have struggled with for some time. Thank you again,

Robert C. Kiser, DO, MSPH

Needless to say, I have used your information to help many others in their time of need. I am currently helping a very dear friend and former co-worker who recently had to have a radical masectomy. Your words are helping her face this life challenge. I truly appreciate and applaud you for your efforts to continually and make a positive difference in people's lives.  Thank you, and please be safe, my friend. 

I found your web site today and I congratulate you. I am a retired surgeon who lost his only child and son 5 weeks ago. My wife and I are devastated but slowly putting our lives back in order. Your words and advice are helpful and have given me some solace although I realise that I have a long way to go before any harmony returns to my life.

Dr. Alastair Jamieson
Surgery, California

This is a beautiful site. I will share it with my friends and medical professionals to share with patients.
Lisa Perry-Gilkes, M.D.
Otolaryngology, California

I loved your web sight. Keep up the good work.
Good Luck & God Bless,
A. L. (Sonny) Shaw, MD
Diplomat, American Board of Anesthesiology,
American Board Anesthesiology Subspecialty Certification in Pain Management,
Diplomat American Board Pain Medicine,
Diplomat American Board Hospice & PalliativeMedicine
Medical Director of Advanced Pain Care Fort Worth, TX

It totally blew me away! It's incredible! It is an excellent, useful endeavor that anyone could use, even by those not touched by grief. The colors draw you in, making you want to explore more; the site is imaginative, beautiful, and helpful. It is as though you have a friend sitting there with you who can help. I am prescribing it to patients.
Dr. Ololade Reis
Internal Medicine, Texas

It is a wonderful resource for those in the rural communities, who can't get to counseling. I have recommended it to patients.
Dr. Mark Bracy
Emergency Medicine, California

The website is wonderful!! I am sure it is already helping countless people. We just have to get the word out that it exists!! I have told some people about Journey of Hearts and gotten lots of positive feedback. VERY nice work!! It must feel very good to know you are reaching so many people and doing such good for their hearts with the site!!
I am very proud to know the Imagineer behind it.
Dr. Shieva Khayam-Bashi
Family Practice, California

I found your page while searching for a condolence card [E-cards for Sympathy, Condolence and Pick-me-ups] to be sent to an email friend whose father passed away on the 15th of October due to CA lung. Then I read many of your articles and pages. I am very impressed and would like to congratulate you for your kind intention and efforts. I guess you have spent so much time for the benefit of the human being. I will recommend your page to my patients prn. I am a Myanmar Medical Doctor doing family medicine at the Science University of Malaysia. I attend the university staff and students and their dependents. Take care, May God Bless you.
Akbar Ali
Myanmar Medical Doctor
Science University of Malaysia

Your webpage is absolutely beautiful! Thank you so much for your lovely poems, stories and words of inspiration. As a 3rd year internal medicine resident, many days I struggle to find peace, comfort and understanding in a world that sometimes appears to have little. Knowing Dr. Dyer has also gone through similar experiences and come out with her compassion intact gives me hope that I may survive the last days with some semblance of a heart.
Nicole Wentworth, MD
3rd year Internal Medicine Resident

Excellent Site. I am a 4th year medical student from Puerto Rico. I was surfing the net looking for end of life care info. Your poem is a beautiful song to the compassion and empathy I hope I can achieve some day. My mother died of cancer few years ago. Then I realized how complicated is the process of healing and also how powerful our intervention can be. Death is a natural process that we can help to dignify. I really will appreciate if you can tell me where to find more about your work or the theme.
Rafael Santiago
4th year Medical student

My name is Eric Madrid and  I am a 3rd Year ( I am on the 5 yr program) medical student at Ohio State University. I am on your mailing list and I am happy I joined. I am very impressed with your site and think you have done a great job.  I SEE A LOT OF VALUABLE INFOMRATION THAT I will learn in order to become a better physician.
Eric Madrid
3rd Year Medical Student
Ohio State University

I am a Physician Assistant student at Barry University in Miami Shores, Florida.; Our program includes a Thanatology course in the final semester before graduation. The course is organized as a discussion course, with student presentations of the current literature. I will be participating in a group presentation on Tuesday concerning palliative care and end-of-life assessment. My assignment is to present an article discussing the attitudes of medical students and physician assistant students in caring for terminally ill patients.

I was searching Medscape for information to support my presentation and found your presentation concerning educating medical students about death and dying. I was completely taken in and absorbed by your website. I plan to inform my classmates of your site. The information and the way you have presented it is very professional as well as compassionate. I was so moved by your website that I wanted to express my gratitude to you for making the information available. As health care professionals, family members, and friends we all stand to benefit from educating ourselves about this topic.


Piipar Allen
Physician Assistant Student
Barry University
Miami, Florida

I have similar experience with medical personal and my own. I lost my year old daughter to SIDS 10 years ago. Three years ago I found out I had the HD gene and was going to have onset soon. Well both of these experiences have motivated in putting a face behind the patient and the family and the person you are giving bad news to. I would love to help in anyway I can. I realized with my experiences that they are some very positive things to say but there are some things to learn. I would really like to help in any way.
Thank you for your time
Julie Holy
Student Nurse

Thank you for this beautiful place of peace.
I am a hospice nurse, a daughter who has lost her fathers, a human who experiences loss everyday.
Thank you for a place to grieve and experience how those I serve might grieve.  This is so wonderful. I had no idea when my kid set me up on a computer that I would be so touched.
Christine L. Dudero-Merchant
Hospice Nurse

I came across your site today while doing some research. I am a Registered Nurse and also a patient with primary pulmonary hypertension. I am one of a group of cyberfriends who share the unfortunate bond of PPH due to diet drug use. After three years we will be meeting face to face for the first time in June in San Diego. We call our group Friends For Life.
As a part of our reunion we will hold a memorial service on the beach in memory of those we lost along the way and never met in life. I went looking for poems to use at the service when I came upon your site. I selected "Seashells" by Sandy Romer and will print the words on cards for our guests, which includes parents and children of those who died. I will also pass along the site address so that we may all visit your site again.

Thank you for providing just what I needed. Thanks again for your wonderful site. I included your site name and address on the printout.

Mary Williams O’Brien
Registered Nurse

Thank you so much for your wonderful website. I too am in the health field, I am a RN. I lost my husband 2 years ago suddenly when he became septic and went into cardio- pulmonary collapse of unknown origin at the age of 40. Your words and poems have touched my soul----thanks for sharing them.
Part 2: I have been looking at your site for the last hour at least.  It has to be the most wonderful grief support place I have visited. You had to be inspired to have created such a wonderful place, and again I want to thank you.
Hoberta, R.N
Registered Nurse

I have spent the last hour or so on your site, and I must tell you what a special site you have created! I found myself engrossed in the stories and poems on your pages. I wish there were more doctors like you, who are not afraid of dealing with the dying. Thank you so much for letting me know about your site. It's wonderful! I will be back many times!
Pam North, R.N.
Pam's Place on the Net

This web site is a good resource because it is available anytime day or night, whenever the need for support arises especially when your friends go on with their busy lives and you haven't fulfilled your need to grieve.
Patricia J. Paternoster, R.N.
Registered Nurse

I am profoundly amazed, and in awe to have just discovered this site. A place to come to when your heart is heavy and rewards so few. I love nursing, it is a part of who I am. A place to find understanding and insight into complex emotions and thoughts that arise in health care. A truly
wonderful gift to give. Sincere gratitude,
Penelope Spaulding, LPN

Thanks for being here when I needed you and your web sites the most. I will make sure others are aware of your web site. God bless you and those who have helped you.
Carolyn RN,BSN

You have a lovely site.... very lovely. Tons of info.... very eclectic. I am glad to put a link up. 
Kathi Webster, R.N.
Webster's Death, Dying and Grief Guide

I firmly believe that the wisdom and inspiration of your website has lessened the pain associated with losing my husband in January, 2001, after his two-year battle with (ALS, Lou Gehrig's Disease). I found your site on my own.  I accessed it frequently, oftentimes printing information or poems that I wanted to keep or have at hand; shared your wisdom and experience with my daughters, and still return to see your updates, or reread sections that truly kept me going.

Thank you, Dr. Dyer. I don't think I would have gotten this far, so quickly, without your guidance.

Pam Lautman
Appalachian Regional Commission

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    Thank you very much for your efforts and hard work to develop and maintain a place of comfort in this world of challenges. I was searching the Internet for positive stories, words, or messages...
    in your pages I found an absolute treasure chest.
Captain Don Follett
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