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~ Requests for Using Journey of HeartsTM Materials ~
In addition to the comments to the site, I have been flattered andhonored by the many requests to use resources from in a variety of different ceremonies, memorials, websites, newsletters, newspapers, yearbooks, homework assignments, college papers, support groups, artwork, educational and motivational resources. I am sure that the resources are being utilized in many other ways that we are unaware. What follows are the just some of the recent requests for using Journey of HeartsTM resources.

I am writing to ask about getting permission to use some of the poems and material on this site.
I am a Nurse Practitioner and coordinator of our Grief and Loss Program - "Coping Through Transitions" at the University of Michigan Comprehensive Cancer Center in Ann Arbor Michigan.

I would like to reproduce some of the poems for our staff at one of our "Staff Grief and Loss Rounds". This is a monthly event that provides a forum for cancer center staff to come and share feelings related to the losses that they themselves experience while caring for cancer patients and their families.

I have been blessed by your site and would in the future also use it for families experiencing loss secondary to the loss of their loved one to cancer.

Please advise on the procedures for use and reference to this site and materials.

Thank You

Susan Wintermeyer-Pingel RN,MS,CS
Coordinator - UM Comprehensive Cancer Center's
Grief and Loss Program

As I was reviewing the poetry found on your website, I found the perfect poem [Cherub] for our situation. We would like to have permission to use the poetry in our school yearbook. It would be great for our dedication page in memory of a first grader in our school who was killed in a car accident this school year. The poem truly fits our situation and we are asking for your permission to use this verse in our yearbook.
Thank you for your time and beautiful verses in poetry provided on you website. It has truly been a blessing for me and touched my life in a special way.
Thanks again,
Marsha Hybarger
I am 'Higher' Psychology student in Livingston, Scotland, studying evening classes whilst working part time, ultimately to work in the field of Psychology. I wonder if you would grant me permission to make reference to your web-page, in particular, some of the additional 'modern' stressors you indicate, in my Report. I would be happy to e-mail you a copy, once complete. The deadline for completion is the end of March.

I look forward very much to hearing from you.

Lynda Johnston

I wanted to let you know it was a huge success if ever a celebration of life can be called one.

Last Friday we held her celebration of life and had over 250 people arrive and mostly stay, she was a great woman and it showed by her turn out. My mother didn't want a gravesite so we picked a tree in a cemetery very close to my mom's house. We picked a red maple tree and will have a plaque there within a few weeks. Immediate family and a wonderful woman and family friend sang amazing grace and read a couple of poems, one of them being " A Better Place". It was a nice way to say good-bye.

I started a Nancy's Life photo array that started from when she was a little girl, with my dad, as well as with my stepfather. She was involved in a few groups that have spanned most of her life and they put together some as well, to say it was beautiful would be an understatement. There were so many pictures of different places in her life and all her different friends it truly was a great way for all of her friends to see her at her happiest and remember all the good times and to say they're good-byes. I started the wall with "A Better Place" [poem] and used two more from your site. We also sent white helium balloons with messages into the night, it was beautiful.

In closing I would just like to thank you and your site for the wonderful information I got off of it. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

Tracey Kitchen

I found your website while searching for an appropriate poem for the funeral [of my cousin] and you mentioned two poems. One was "In Memory of You" and the other was "Guardian Angel." Could you please either forward to me these two poems or tell me where I may be able to find them on the web?

Thank you in advance.


I am a teacher of 6, 7, 8th grade special education children. For the holiday season I will be doing a unit on candles/lights and the significance of the meaning of "seeing the light" through the flame of a candle. I came across your website and would like to know if the site is still active.

My desire is to have my students e-mail letters in memory of children they know who have passed on. One student in particular lost his older brother and the year anniversary will be this January. Lighting a candle in his brother's honor will be therapeutic for that student. I lost a sister in 1969 and would love to honor her memory by sending a letter. I am sure most, if not all, of my students may know of an individual they would be pleased to honor.

Please let me know how I should go about getting my students involved. I found your web site to be inspiring, therapeutic, and a treasure that I don't want my students to miss out on.

I would love to hear from you and appreciate your direction.

Thank you greatly,

Robin Rettie

I am making a poetry book for my English final exam. I was wondering if you could help me out by telling me if you are the author of the Guardian Angel poem on your website. If you are can you please e-mail me back and tell me what inspired you to write the poem and a little about yourself also because we have to give information about the author of the poems also. I would really appreciate it if you did.

This project is our final exam grade. We have to choose 15 poems on a certain topic and I chose to use the topic of overcoming. I feel that Guardian Angel is a poem that shows how people feel like giving up and have nothing to live for, but then God steps in and He helps you to stand firm and over come the obstacles you are facing no matter how tough they are all you have to do is hold on. There is a poem section, a reflection section where we write our reactions to the poems, and an author section where we give a biography (birth, death, college, writing style, influences on writing) of the author. Thanks for replying so quickly.

Part 2: My teacher liked my project and the fact that I had to e-mail my authors for the author section. Guardian Angel really made me realize that God is with me every step of the way. I read your bio and I must say that I'm amazed. To see a child of God strive so far. I want to go into the medical field someday and you've only inspired me more. God is truly amazing and He is showcasing His children. Stay blessed, highly favored and anointed to prosper. I'm glad that I found your poem. I got an "A" :)))


Your article, "Caring For The Person, Not Just The Patient In End-of-Life Care", was forwarded to me by the Co-Coordinator of our Orange County California Chapter. Carl Merkle. What wonderful words. Your discussion of these issues is so clearly laid out.

Would you consider letting us put this article and your poem on our website in a PDF file for patients and caregivers to have access to it? It would be a strong addition to the resources available to them.

Thank you for caring about and speaking out on these very real and very painful issues.

Peace and good health,

Priscilla Savary
Executive Director
Colorectal Cancer Network

I was surfing the net and came across the article on depression and holiday blues. I am a writer for a military newspaper and I am writing a story about our assistance center. I would like to use some of the material in the article, particularly where you define depression and blues.

The publication, Missile Ranger, is not-for-profit, and I would accredit your material.

Sandra Flores
Missile Ranger
White Sands Missile Range Community, N.M.

My name is Tamara Brown and I live in Ft. Worth, Texas. After 21 years of teaching, in a public school classroom, I am finally about to finish my master's degree in school counseling. I am attending Dallas Baptist University and am in the process of preparing my graduate portfolio.

When I began thinking about my portfolio, I was searching for a theme for my book. I had remembered a poem I had heard many years ago and began to search the web for it. I finally located it on a website dedicated to butterflies. The name of the poem is, "The Cocoon and The
Butterfly." On the website it stated that the poem was "reproduced with kind permission" from the Journey of Hearts Healing Website. I had remembered that the poem talked about the butterfly with reference made to the struggles that God allows in our life to make us strong.

I thought I could use the poem, as the focal point and theme (butterflies) of my portfolio, because it talks about the help of others and how our struggles are sometimes exactly what we need.

This email is being sent to ask your kind permission to use the poem in my graduate portfolio.

Part 2: I looked at the poem on your web site. The web design is beautiful. Thank you for your telling me about your search for the original author. I would like to give credit to your site, for the poem, and also as a place for finding help.


Tamara Brown

Thank you so very much!!!!!!!!!! I'm looking for a poem for a little boy that died when he was 2 1/2 months old. He died of SIDS. I want the poem to put in the newspaper. I prayed last night that God would let me know when I found the right poem, and this morning he brought me you and your poems. You will never know how much you helped me, I don't have to search anymore for that perfect poem.

Very Sincerely,

Kim Darnell

I was doing some surfing over the Internet about loneliness. I am a graduate student doing some research into loneliness, coping strategies and Internet use. I have developed a website to address issues of loneliness, in particular, causes of loneliness, different types of loneliness and different coping strategies used by lonely persons. I am also trying to collect artwork about loneliness from visitors as well, along with hosting an online questionnaire to better understand people's experiences of loneliness. I was thinking that this might be a good resource to add to your list of resources as well.
Sean Seepersad

Catholic Social Services is a small non-profit agency in American Samoa. We are currently running a Youth Suicide Prevention Program. As we were searching on the net for inspirational thoughts, quotes, stories, we came across your beautiful well-worded web page. We would like to ask your permission to use this on our pamphlet for outreach materials. We want to use this information to reach as many youth groups and organizations as much as we can, and pray and hope that they will benefit from it.

If you could kindly give your address, I will be more than happy to send you a copy of our complete pamphlet.

Thank you. As we say goodbye in Samoan “Tofa Soifua,”

Polu Malaga Fuatagavi, BSW
Catholic Social Services

I am a chaplain at Wilson Hospice Care in Sidney, OH. Today, as I was preparing for several events upcoming, (dedication of Hope Garden, annual Light Up A Life memorial service, etc) I was SO BLESSED to stumble into your poems. I'm sure God led me here!

Where are you practicing? I would like to be able to share a few personal notes about you - if you would be so kind as to allow me to use a few of your poems at our events.

I just found the "Journeys of the Heart" page - and so ... have not really had the time to find these items - if they are there.

Please let me know if it's ok to use your poems, and share a bit about yourself, if you could.

Thanks Kirsti!
Peace and Grace.

Rev. Phil Chilcote
Wilson Hospice Care
Sidney, OH

Hello. On the horrifying day of the terrorism act Sept 11th, I searched the web for sympathy poems. Lucky enough to have none of my beloved friends or family struck by this disaster directly, I wanted to have my own vigil with friends. We went to church for prayers, then gathered in my backyard to light tiki torches and I took your poem " A Better Place" on the website to read aloud. It was a very touching day. Heartfelt sympathy to all those who'se lives have been affected forever.

Stranger with a heart, Godbless!


I visited your Journey of Hearts and really appreciate the premise it was built on. A wealth of wonderful ideas and info! You have put a lot of heart and soul into the site.

I recently created an eGroup for the purpose of offering support and friendship to those whose lives have been touched by cancer. For folks on that "Cancer Carousel", if you will. We are 11 members strong and growing with over 150 postings.

Currently, we are working on a new website of the same name "THE CAROUSEL OF HOPE.” As we proceed, I would love to link with your site and maybe use some things found in the Journey Of Hearts. Of course I would certainly be happy to give credits to your site.

I was surprised when I surfed in to your site, because, I had a lot of the same ides for my Carousel Of Hope. Once I get the initial pages up, would love to expand to include Child Abuse, Spousal Abuse,
Missing Children, Troubled Teens and Foster Care. Sounds like a big bill. As the saying goes,"One small step at a time".

Again, I have bookmarked The Journey Of Hearts and will return often. Would appreciate your response regarding my use of some of your things for THE CAROUSEL OF HOPE. When we get the first page up, I would like to send it to you

Take care

I recently sent your web site address to our students, faculty and staff at the community college where I am a counselor. September 11 was a very difficult day for each one of us and I was encouraged to find your wonderful site. I passed the address along to hundreds of people so that they may begin healing.
On behalf of my family, friends, students, co-workers and community members- Thank you for taking the initiative to develop such a wonderful site and for sharing it with the world.
Peace and good health to you always,
Emi Danska

One of my colleagues and I are presenting a workshop called Mediating the Emotional Case, Dealing with Issues Near and Dear to the Heart, at an ABA (American Bar Association) Alternative Dispute Resolution Conference resolution. We are interested in giving people a copy of two articles which appear on your website: “The Importance of Telling and Listening to the Story” and “Welcome to Holland” (I received a copy of this one years ago on a newsletter that I receive as a parent).
I look forward to hearing from you. Thank you for your help (and for the great resources you have on your website).


Elaine Talley
Master of Education
Degree in law

I work as the Special Sections Editor at the Bee Group Newspapers in Buffalo, N.Y. We are putting together a special section called "Death, A Part of Life," and I was wondering if I could use some of the material from your Web site in our section. I feel the information can help people cope with the loss of a loved one and also contains excellent information.

Whatever I use would be in all nine of our papers and could really help people. I would attribute whatever information I use to the Journey of Hearts Web site, which in turn, could bring more people needing help to your Web site.

Thank you,

Bob Kupczyk
Special Sections Editor

I am using information from your site, to use in a college speech. I will cite you in the paper and I will also put you in the bibliography.
Sallie Weedman

My name is Judy and I am the manager of a small MSN. Community called Stairways To Heaven Pet Loss & Support group. In doing some research for my community I came across Journey of Hearts and I must say I was so intrigued that I bookmarked for regular use and found it to be very supporting.
I am in the process of working with two webmasters to help me create a candle lighting ceremony page to help my members with closure after losing a beloved pet. And would like permission to use your original script to create a smaller version and will respect the codes and will give credit for your use.


Judy Huggins

I am writing a non-fiction book titled A CONDITION OF LIMBO: Chronicles of a Daughter’s Unconditional Love . Written in remembrance of my terminally ill father, now deceased. He suffered with cancer and dementia. In the book, I would like to refer to your web site so others can be informed.

I would like to know if you would grant me permission to refer to the site. Please advise me at your earliest convenience. I am attaching a synopsis of the book.

Thank you.

Barbie Perkins-Cooper

I would like permission to put your poem IN MEMORY OF YOU in the Windsor Star as a memorial for my sister who will have been in eternal life 10 years on October 24, 2000. She was only 26 years old and had two young boys 2 and 4.
I read your poem and want to be able to express the feelings you provide in that poem to everyone who takes the time to read the memorian. Please let me know if it is okay for me to use your poem.


Katherine Labbe

For more comments see the following links: To view the Earlier Comments about Journey of HeartsTM follow the links below:
On behalf of my family, friends, students, co-workers and community members - Thank you for taking the initiative to develop such a wonderful site and for sharing it with the world.
Emi Danska

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