United in Courage & Grief 
Perhaps this final act was meant
To clinch a lifetime's argument
That nothing comes from violence
and nothing ever could
For all those born beneath an angry star
Lest we forget how fragile we are
On and on the rain will fall
Like tears from a star
Like tears from a star
On and on the rain will say
How fragile we are
How fragile we are
--Sting, Fragile
A Wake-up Call for the World

The randomness, the senseless, the magnitude of destruction, particularly civilian has impacted not only the United States, but countries around the world. The United States was not the only country to suffer casualties in this first war of the 21st century, this war against terrorism. The World Trade Center housed employees from around the world. With this event, we are a world united in grief trying to explain the unexplainable.

In the absence of wake-up calls,
many of us never really confront the critical issues of life.

- Stephen Covey

 Those who have survived this tragedy have received a "Wake-Up" call and have been given the opportunity to reassess and re-evaluate our lives.  Life is very different in the aftermath of these events.

Life is so precious. Please love each other.
-Julia Roberts (paraphrased)
Life is so Fragile and Precious

Any time there is a tragedy, a sudden unexpected death I am once again reminded that life is so fragile. It also reminds me to focus on the present, to let the hurts and disappointments of the past slip away, and let go of the concerns and fears of the future. Because of the magnitude of this event, the need for self reflection was even greater, as we are reminded that life is so precious. Goals, plans, purchases which were once important the week prior to the event now seem trivial by comparison. As with so many others, I look at and re-evaluated my personal priorities and with my husband re-evaluated the priorities for our family. We have made some changes in our life plans in the wake of these events.

What becomes more precious is the time spent with loved ones. Tender moments with our children take on greater meaning. For a time following this tragedy, as we remember the 'Wake-up Call" we will treasure every moment. Perhaps most important of all, this event has taught us the Value of Time and the need to remember that Time waits for no one.

The Value of Time
To realize the value of one year: Ask a student who has failed a final exam.
To realize the value of one month: Ask a mother who has given birth to a premature baby.
To realize the value of one week: Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realize the value of one hour: Ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.
To realize the value of one minute: Ask the person who has missed the train, bus or plane.
To realize the value of one second: Ask a person who has survived an accident.
To realize the value of one millisecond: Ask the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics.

These words really help put things into perspective, to remind us what we often seem to forget, to remember what is important in life and what isn't. That life is very short, and time with loved ones precious.

Live today for tomorrow it will all be history.

Learning from Death

In trying to find some ray of hope, some positive in the midst of this tragedy, a very wise teacher, Dr. Leo Buscaglia, taught us that we can learn from death.

Death teaches us--if we want to hear--that the time is now. The time is now to pick up a telephone and call the person that you love. Death teaches us the joy of the moment. It teaches us we don't have forever. If teaches us that nothing is permanent, It teaches us to let go, there's nothing you can hang on to. And it tells us to give up on expectations and let tomorrow tell its own story, because nobody knows if they'll get home tonight. To me that's a tremendous challenge. Death says, "Live now."
The unexpected, tragic deaths remind us to "live for the moment, because you never know how long you may have."

Life is what happens to you when you are busy making other plans.

-John Lennon
Checklist to Keep Love Alive

The following check list was adapted by Michael Bischoff of the Simply Love Website. This list started as a holiday letter sent by Dr. Leo Buscaglia in 1996:

Dr. Buscaglia's message is clear.
Life is lived in the here and now, we must clear our lives of the essential trivia to make more room for living and loving.
Live each day as if it were to be your last. Because one of these days you will be right.

Get on with living and loving. You don't have forever.
-Eben Eugene Rexford
If I had My Life to Live Over

On a bit lighter note, Erma Bombeck wrote of her list of things she would do if she had her life to live over.

May you live all the days of your life.
-Jonathan Swift
About the One World Ribbon
Jeff Gates created the One World Ribbon as his response to the terrorist acts as a way of focusing our attention on the universal human qualities and strengths, not on the hatred of a few terrorists.  When he realized that many people died at the World Trade Center were not Americans it struck him that terrorism was not just an American problem. Every single person in the world is both affected and, in a way, responsible for their actions.

The One World Ribbon was created from the colors on the Olympic flag comprised of six colors. Each color represents a continent and every flag in the world has at least one of the six colors.

Buscaglia L. Learn the Joy of the Moment. http://www.kirstimd.com/buscagl2.htm
Dyer K. A Checklist for Keeping Love Alive. Bischoff M. Keep Love Alive - 'To do' Check list. Available at: http://www.kirstimd.com/checklist.htm
Bombeck E. If I Had My Life to Live Over http://www.kirstimd.com/erma.htm

Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.

Other Resources and Information:
United in Courage and Grief - Introduction Page
Why does my heart feel so bad?
What is Different about this Event?
The Importance of Telling the Story
Wake-up Call for the World
Health Concerns for Witnesses
Blessings, Lyrics, Poems & Quotes
Remembering Our Children
Helping Children to Cope with Tragedy
More Resources
Ways of Helping & Coping
Share your thoughts Transformations on the Journey
Page posted October 7, 2001.
In Memory of all those lost and forever missing from the events on September 11, 2001, the day our world changed.
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