Change & Grief
Coping with Loss
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The following guidelines were
adapted from recommendations by the Alzheimer's Association, for ways of
coping with the loss of a family member to Alzheimer's Disease.
This page is dedicated to my
Grandmother, Mildred Dyer, who is still with us, but we lost to Alzheimer's
Disease 3 years ago.
These recommendations are equally
applicable to anyone who is dealing with a loss--in what ever form it may
Coping with Loss of Someone
It is common for caregivers to
experience feelings of loss, after someone you love has been diagnosed
with Alzheimer's disease, especially if your life and the person you love
is significantly changed by the disease.
The Grief Process
The natural phases of grieving
usually involve denial, anger, guilt, physical symptoms and eventually--acceptance.
However, it is important
to realize that everyone grieves differently.
Some of the feelings and symptoms
you may experience include:
Feelings of Guilt
Denial that your loved one is ill.
Periods of helplessness, despair
Changes in appetite or sleep patterns
(more or less)
Anger or frustration with the person
with Alzheimerís and having to care for them.
Withdrawal from friends, family,
social activities, and the person with Alzheimer's.
Throughout the process of grieving
and mourning the loss of a loved one to Alzheimer's, guilt is often a prevalent
feeling for caregivers.
Guilt can be related to:
Coping with the Guilt
Thinking you could have or should
have done something differently.
Being able to enjoy life while your
loved one may not.
Feelings that you have failed, especially
if your loved has been placed in a nursing home.
Negative thoughts about the person
with the disease, in particular, wishing his/her suffering would come to
Conflicts with family members for
a variety of reasons, but usually because they are uninvolved and/or critical
of care thatís being provided.
Many cases feelings of guilt are
linked to unrealistic expectations.
Some suggestions for coping with
If the grief process is prolonged
or severe that your physical and mental well-being are at risk, or you
are experiencing signs of depression, seek help from your physician.
Confront your feelings.
Accept guilt as a normal part of
loss and grief.
Find ways to forgive yourself..
Share your feelings with a friend,
family, support group, physcian, counselor, or spiritual leader.
Learn to be okay with accepting
and celebrating good things in your life.
Coping with the Grieving Process
Some suggested ways of coping
Last updated July 14, 1998
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Returning to some aspects of your
Allowing time for physical exercise,
play and rest.
Trying to find humor even in difficult
Bringing balance into your life
by doing things that you enjoy.
Preparing for what the future may