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These suggestions are but a small
sampling from The
Little Book of Calm, by Paul Wilson. With over 150 suggestions in this
pocket sized calming break, I have tried to find those which seemed to
resonate the most with me, but as Mr. Wilson suggests, "When you feel troubled
simple let this book fall open, let your intuition guide you and you will
see the most effective way to find calm at that particular moment."
Suggestions for Attaining
by Paul Wilson
1. Waste some time
Hard-working people never waste
time on frivolous, fun filled activities. Yet, for hard working people,
any time spent this way is far from wasted.
2. Pretend you believe
Regardless of what you know,
bu pretending to be absolutely calm and relaxed, you will fool your subconscious
into believing you are calm and relaxed.
3. Worry when the time comes
Most worries are future based.
They revolve around things that, in most cases, will never happen. Concentrate
on the present and the future will take care of itself.
4. Single out Simple Pleasures
Approach something with your
full attention and an open mind, and you'll find pleasure and complexity
in it. A bunch of grapes, a glass of water, a field of grass or a sky of
clouds. All of such things can lead to calm.
5. Jettison the Past
There is seldom any rational
reason for having regrets about past deeds or events. Because the past
does not exist in any way other than in your memory. When you recognize
this lack of reality, you can be calm.
6. Steal 30 Seconds
When you're tense, go somewhere
quiet--even the bathroom will do in a pinch--and take thirty seconds to
gather your thoughts, and work out how you're going to become calm.
They could be the most useful
thirty seconds in your day.
Stand straighter and taller
than you believe feels natural, with an imaginary thread attached
to the top of your skull lifting you a few millimeters above the ground.
The higher above the ground you feel, the close you will be to feeling
8. Paint the Town Green
Plants pour oxygen into the
environment while soaking up carbon dioxide and pollutants. Keep plants
where you work, sleep, and live and you'll enjoy more oxygen. The more
oxygen you can get, the calmer you will become.
9. Play a calm role
Pretend you are calm: adopt
the characteristics of a calm person, pretend that others see you as a
calm person, and in no time you'll be a calm person.
10. Control only what you can control
Be rigorous in differentiating
between what is achievable and what is a waste of time. Then devote your
energies only to those tasks you can achieve (pass on the others to someone
11. Plan your worries
Put aside a certain amount
of time each day--at the same time each day--which you devote to sorting
through your worries. When the time is up, STOP WORRYING.
12. Know when to withdraw
Think Calm, Live Calm, Be
About the Author
There comes a time in every
struggle when determination serves no purpose and becomes an end unto itself.
Knowing when to move on to the next issue is a skill possessed by many
Paul Wilson wrote The Calm Technique
as a no-nonsense guide to meditation. The book became a great success with
a diverse audience from teachers of meditation, and stress management counselors
to medical practitioners and psychiatrists. What became apparent is that
those who needed the Calm Technique the most were not the over stressed
business executives or the seekers of higher consciousness, but rather
those who were too worried, stressed or distressed, those suffering from
every day stress and anxiety but didn't have the time. Hence came
You can also visit their website
at the Calm Centre, http://www.calmcentre.com.
Little Book of Calm by Paul Wilson. Published by NAL/Dutton, December
This book from world-renowned
relaxation expert Paul Wilson, offers more than 150 simple, common-sense
tips that will help even the most overwhelmed among us take a minute to
unwind. Readers will learn to handle life's stresses, big and small, with
a clear, calm head. It is full of advice to follow and thoughts to inspire.
Perfect pocket size to carry with you to steal moments of peace and tranquility,
any time, any place.
Calm by Paul Wilson. Published by NAL/Dutton, April 1995.
This book is about crisis control,
about restoring your sense of well-being when things go wrong. Within the
pages of this book are over a hundred of the most powerful calming techniques
known, from the wisdom of ancient civilizations to the discoveries of modern
research. The techniques include meditation, acupressure, self hypnosis,
psychotherapy, aromatherapy, exercise, diet and music. Instant Calm contains
immediate, effective methods of relaxation, and practical strategies for
dealing with emergencies, and long-term remedies for eliminating stress,
tension and negativity.
Last updated February 3, 1999
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