The Angel Place in CyberSpace
Poem--In Memory of You
Journey of Hearts
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For Sheri, Celia, Sandy and Maggi without their losses, I never would have had the inspiration, or experienced the losses necessary, to write this poem. 

Your light and love is missed by those who loved you. 

In Memory of You
I find an old photograph 
and see your smile. 
As I feel your presence anew, 
I am filled with warmth 
and my heart remembers love. 

I read an old card 
sent many years ago 
during a time of turmoil and confusion. 
The soothing words written then 
still caress my spirit 
and bring me peace. 

I remember who you used to be 
the laughter we shared 
and wonder what you have become. 
Where are you now, 
Where did you go, 
When the body is left behind 
and the spirit is released to fly? 

Perhaps you are the morning bird 
singing joyfully at sunrise, 
or the butterfly that dances 
so carelessly on the breeze 
or the rainbow of colors 
that brightens a stormy sky 
or the fingers of afternoon mist 
delicately reaching over the mountains 
or the final few rays of the setting sun 
lighting up the skies 
edging the clouds with a magical glow. 

I miss your being 
but I feel your presence, 
In whatever form you choose to take, 
however you now choose to be. 

Your spirit has become for me 
a guardian angel on high 
guiding, advising, and watching over me. 

I remember you. 
You are with me 
and I am not afraid. 

Kirsti A. Dyer, MD, MS
About "In Memory of You"--the inspiration 

"In Memory of You," was written on a sunny winter day, penned in response to the death of a dear family friend from bone cancer. Her death combined with other recent significant losses-- a childhood friend to the complications of multiple sclerosis at the age of 34, a 22 year old to the long-tern effects of anorexia nervosa and a vibrant light of a patient to lung cancer at the age of 38--to inspire the poem. These deaths were my primary motivators, but there were many others over the years--patients that I had lost during my days as an EMT or while in medical school and residency training. 
This poem, Memory, was first used by my nurse as a sympathy card following her uncle's death.  The poem also became the centerpiece of a flower arrangement at the funeral. 
My secretary framed the poem with a favorite photo to memorialize her young niece, who had died of leukemia two years prior. 
While I was a temporary replacement physician following the death of a young physician at age 43, I used the poem "Memory" to help his staff and his patients during the initial phases of the grieving process while tending to the medical needs of his patients. 
A copy of Memory stands the desk of Margaret's (Maggi's husband, the family friend who inspired it. 
The poem also has been shared with the mothers of the two patients that inspired it--Sandy and Celia. 
My Mother passed on the poem to help the family of one of her former students after this young adult died of complications of Down's Syndrome. 
I shared a copy with a family friend and help him find an acceptance phase following his daughter's death from cancer. He had been in denial up until her death. I received a beautiful note of "Thanks" from him for sending the poem; it did make a difference. 
Most recently the poem was reprinted in a friend's Christmas insert, to send following the death of several family members during 1997. I received a phone call from her, telling me how many people had been touched by the poem and asking for permission to have it read at the unexpected death of another family member--a 17 year-old killed in a car accident. 
The power of these words, written in inspired moments when I am having problems dealing with the understanding the losses of friends and patients, touches people in a way that I never would have imagined possible. It is shared here in the hopes that it will provide words of hope and inspiration for those who read it. 

Last updated January 30, 1998
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