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This article comes from Cape Town
South Africa, written by a Professor at the University of Stellenbosch,
in response to the death of Dr. Leo Buscaglia. The article is written to
share his own reflections on what he had learned from the teachings and
the writings of Dr. Leo Buscaglia--the ability to discover the "real me."
The Five Roads to Meet
(a.k.a. How Dr. Buscaglia
Changed My Life)
The Five Roads to Meet Yourself
by Ivan H. Meyer, Ph.D.
1. Don't compete with people.
If you compete with people than
you will never realise your full potential.
Compete with your own inner strength
and determination, because this will allow you to continuously grow and
If you compete with people you may
compete with less than your real talent.
The test is to develop a personal
vision statement and use this as the source of your competition. A vision
is your dream your desired future. I have developed a personal vision,
mission, goals and have since developed a competition within myself to
fulfill my vision.
2. Develop a mental success of
If you create a mental success than
you have achieved 80% success.
Many people reject themselves.
Some people go to the shop and spend
a lot of money on new clothes, just to go home, dress up, look in the mirror
and say to themselves: " I don't look good in this dress!" What a pity
that people spend money to reject themselves.
Be happy about yourself! Show it
openly, without carrying a bag of arrogance.
Creating a positive self-image of
myself has changed my life tremendously.
If people see that you are a person
of self respect than you have shaped a public opinion of yourself.
If you have a negative opinion of
yourself than you must not expect others to have a positive view of you.
Develop a positive view of yourself.
3. I am an original person.
There are 6 billion people on this
planet and no one has the same fingerprint like mine. This is enough empirical
proof that I am an original person, therefore I act and behave like an
Leo has taught us not be photocopies
of other people.
It is really sad to see how people
have given up themselves and day dream to become like somebody else. Isn't
People reject themselves without
even discovering the real "me."
I am happy God created me in his
He made me so special that I have
a burning desire to be special.
I am no ordinary person and therefore
I am not going to disappoint my Creator.
4. Always respect people.
Develop a genuine interest in people.
You will not die if you show a genuine
interest in people.
Find out more about themselves,
their families and make time to visit them.
This is the greatest value Dr Buscaglia
has taught us:
Respect Human Beings. Don't
5. Finally enjoy life and remain
There is nothing more exciting than
being a human being.
Enjoy it while you can.
Don't make your life miserable and
complicated. If you fail today don't give up.
Failing is a very normal part of
being human. Try to fail forward.
I am not afraid of failing forward.
I hope some of you now understand
why Dr Buscaglia is such a global teacher. The purpose of
training and teaching is to
change behaviour. Dr Buscaglia can sleep well tonight because he has changed
Bye Dr Leo, a loved professor,
a scholarly academic, a psycologist for the nation, a lecturer to the global
university students, our mentor, and our dear father. The people of the
African Continent will remember you because of your warmness, your kindness-
a true reflection of the Ubuntu spirit.
Living, Loving and Learning
About the Author:
Dr. Ivan H. Meyer is a professor
in the Department of Public and Development Management at the University
of Stellenbosch, Cape Town South Africa http://www.sun.ac.za/oob
Last updated July 2, 1998
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He is a senior lecturer teaching
public management in South Africa and presents motivational seminars and
workshops to underpriviledged people. Dr. Meyer states that " I never go
to such talks without Leo's books."