A Healing Place
Common Myths about Grief
Each one of the following statements
is a myth!
If you believe they are true,
then you will expect yourself and others to act and feel accordingly.
about the Nature of Grief:
Myths about the Timing of Grief:
All losses are the same.
All bereaved people grieve in the
You will be the same after the death
as before your loved one died.
You will have no relationship with
you loved one after the death.
Myths about Avoiding the Pain
It takes two months to get over
Grief always declines over time
in a steadily decreasing fashion.
The intensity and length of your
grief are testimony to your love for the person. pet or thing lost.
When grief is resolved, it never
comes up again.
Myths about the Feelings of Grief:
If is better to put painful things
out of your mind.
Once a loved one has died it is
best to put him or her in the past and to on with your life.
You should not think about the deceased
at anniversaries or holidays because it will make you feel sad.
Myths about the Physical Symptoms
Bereaved people need only to express
their feelings and they will resolve their grief.
Expressing feelings that are intense
is the sam as losing control.
There is no reason to be angry at
people who tried to do their best for your loved one.
You should feel only sadness that
your loved one has died.
Myths about Support for Grief:
will affect you psychologically, but in no other way.
Only sick individuals have physical
problems in grief.
Last updated March 23, 1998
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If is not important for you to have
social support in your grief.
There is something wrong if you
do not always feel close to your friends and family, since you should be
happy that they are still alive.
It is better to tell bereaved people
to "Be brave" and "Keep a stiff upper lip" because then they will not have
to experience as much pain.
Rituals and funerals are unimportant
in helping us deal with life and death in contemporary America.