The parts of the service came from different sources.
For music one of our attendings and friend, Dr. Steve Hosea suggested Bobby Mc Farrin's acapella version of 23rd Psalm. The first verse of Amazing Grace was sung as a tribute to Sandy Rogers by a friend, Cynthia Stoddard, and then the remaining verses by the participants. One Sweet Day, the song by Mariah Carey and Boys to Men, was uggested by one of the Clerks from the Oncology Ward at Cottage Hospital in Santa Barbara, who had seen her share of losses with patients and their family members.
The words from the Tibetan Book
of Living and Dying
were found by a friend, studying Buddhism.
For me these words describe the essence of what I try to share with my patients, and remind me of the reasons I became a doctor..."May I be the doctor, the medicine and may I be the nurse for all
the sick beings in the world, until everyone is healed." I included my poem, Transformation, as a symbol of change, of coming out of the grief and being Transformed.
The original blessing that was used was read by the Reverend Susan Copeland. It was a blessing for the healers. A Prayer similar to the original (if not identical) came in the mail a bit more than a week after I did this page. It has been edited in to reflect the original experience.
The following names were patients lost over the year 1995-1996 at Santa Barbara Cottage Hospital. They were compiled from the resident physicians, nurses and attending physicians, some submitting many names, some just one or two, and others not wanting to participate at all.
These people touched our lives in many different ways. We changed by caring for them and by knowing them.
I have changed the listing from
the original version to an alphabetical one:
Shannon Kay Borgardt
After the service, people remained, not wanting to leave. Each took away an origami butterfly, and I would like to believe was transformed by the experience and left...