~ How to Help a Grieving Person ~
information in this section is provided for educational purposes and cannot
substitute for a professional evaluation by a physician or mental health
practitioner. If you have any concerns or specific questions about your
behavior or health contact your physician or healthcare practitioner.
All I know from
my own experience is that the more loss we feel
the more grateful we
should be for whatever it was we had to lose.
It means that we had
something worth grieving for.
The ones I'm sorry for
are the ones that go
through life not knowing what grief is.
Frank O' Connor
Loss is the sudden deprivation or disappearance
of something cherished by the individual. It is a common experience that
can be encountered many times during a lifetime; it does not discriminate
for age, race, sex, education, economic status, or nationality. Grief is
the normal reaction to the loss. It is the means by which the bereaved
begin accepting the reality of a loss or an event which will change their
Grieving people must recognize that contrary to
popular beliefs, they may never "get over" their grief. They may experience
certain major losses—diagnosis of a terminal illness or the ultimate loss
of a child, spouse or loved one to death—that are forever losses. The grief
response will endure as long as the person is alive. Fortunately so too
will the memories of good times and love shared with the person lost that
serve to remind them to be grateful to have something worth grieving for.
Each person travels on his or her own unique Journey
of Grief in experiencing the loss. Each
person's experience of loss will have subtle
nuances that will make it unlike any other loss, but the commonality—the
grief response—with the intense feelings of loss, anger, depression, loneliness,
fear, frustration, desperation, these are emotions that others will have
also felt, endured and survived. Education is one of the best ways to understand
the grief response and aide the grieving in learning how to deal with loss,
crisis or significant change, and aid in the transition to a new life.
We have complied a variety of information and
links to additional resources for those who are interested in learning
more about the "normal" grief response and helping or the grieving adult.
(For information on the Complications of Grief,
see the separate section.) Some of the resources are new articles, others
are links to information from the original version of Journey of Hearts.™
Fortunately, much of the information on grief and loss is timeless so the
main content on grief and loss created for the original version of the
site is still accurate, informative and relevant.
When an emotional
injury takes place, the body begins a process
as natural as the healing
of a physical wound.
Let the process happen.
Trust that nature will
do the healing.
Know that the pain will
pass, and, when it passes,
You will be stronger,
happier, more sensitive and aware.