of Coping - Valentine's Day
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It may seem a bit strange to be
listing Valentine's Day under the Condolence and Sympathy section, since
it it traditionally viewed as happy occasion. For many of my adult years,
Valentine's Day was a very difficult one to deal with, because I spent
it alone. I created this page to help those who are having difficulty with
the day, with suggestions for something to do to make it a less painful
occasion. This is dedicated to all those who may have lost their special
someone, or those who have yet to find him/her.
understand any living thing you must creep within and feel the beating
of its heart.
W. Macneile Dixon
For me, Valentine's Day was always
a harsh reminder of the absence of having someone special in your life.
As a medical student and resident physician-in-training, it was often difficult
to see the nursing staff and married student's getting special flowers
from that "Special Someone," when you were wondering, when or if, you would
ever find someone. Perhaps,
because of the pressures that society places on Women in particular to
be part of a "couple," Valentine's Day is harder for the single female.
These feelings were depicted on a classic "Friends" episode, where Phoebe
leads Monica and Rachel on a Valentine's Burning Ritual (only to have the
fire department respond) to help them deal with the holiday.
Valentine's Day is also difficult
for those who have lost that special someone, due to breakups, divorce
or death. As with Christmas. Birthday's and Anniversaries, Valentine's
Day can be another of the painful 'trigger' days.
Ways of Coping
I have pulled together many of
the quotes, stories, articles, lyrics, poems, blessings, and suggestions
which I hope will be helpful for those who are grieving or just trying
to deal with Valentine's Day. As with the suggestions for dealing with
Christmas, many of the ways of dealing with the pain and heartache is to
reach down and help someone else up.
There is no better exercise
for your heart,
than reaching down and helping
to lift someone up.
Quote of the Day
True Drops of Love
Do not think that love, in order
to be genuine, one has to be
What we need is to love without
How does a lamp burn?
Through the continuous input
drops of oil. If the drops of oil run out, the light of the lamp will cease.
What are these drops of oil
in our lamps?
They are the small things of
small words of kindness,
a thought for others,
our way of being silent,
of looking of speaking,
and of acting.
These are the true drops of love.
Be faithful in small things
because it is in them that your
words toward those you daily meet,
words and actions right,
make this life of ours most sweet,
darkness into light.
These three stories tell of
the importance of love, of caring and how even in little ways you can make
a difference and an impact on someone.
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These articles, both from authors
who have died, help to put life into perspective. Dr. Buscaglia reminds
us that "Death teaches us--if we want to hear--that the time is now," and
to "Live now." Erma Bombeck charges us to "seize every minute...look at
it and really see it... live it...but most of
all...never give it back!"
What has helped to pull me through
many dark moments are music and the lyrics that go along with them. I separated
the lyrics into sections, depending on what sort of mood you might be in:
Dreams & Dreamers
three poems convey different feelings.
blessings are included for those who just are wondering how to survive
the day. Some thoughts for peace, happiness and hope.
Things to Do
Visit a "Love Site"
Tell another single friend, family member or Net pal how much you
care and help pick up their spirits!
For those who want to send Traditional Valentine's Messages:
For those dealing with a broken heart, share the feelings with a
friend who has also been in that position!:
For those wanting to remember a lost loved, light a candle or send
World of Dr. Leo Buscaglia - author of books such as Living, Loving
and Learning he has touched untold numbers with his insights into how we
happiness and create loving
Love - a website devoted to promoting loving relationships world-wide.
You - a website devoted to love, romance and relationships (not advised
for those who have just lost one!)