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Ways of Coping - Valentine's Day
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Happy Valentine's Day
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It may seem a bit strange to be listing Valentine's Day under the Condolence and Sympathy section, since it it traditionally viewed as happy occasion. For many of my adult years, Valentine's Day was a very difficult one to deal with, because I spent it alone. I created this page to help those who are having difficulty with the day, with suggestions for something to do to make it a less painful occasion. This is dedicated to all those who may have lost their special someone, or those who have yet to find him/her.

W. Macneile Dixon

For me, Valentine's Day was always a harsh reminder of the absence of having someone special in your life. As a medical student and resident physician-in-training, it was often difficult to see the nursing staff and married student's getting special flowers from that "Special Someone," when you were wondering, when or if, you would ever find someone.  Perhaps, because of the pressures that society places on Women in particular to be part of a "couple," Valentine's Day is harder for the single female. These feelings were depicted on a classic "Friends" episode, where Phoebe leads Monica and Rachel on a Valentine's Burning Ritual (only to have the fire department respond) to help them deal with the holiday.
Valentine's Day is also difficult for those who have lost that special someone, due to breakups, divorce or death. As with Christmas. Birthday's and Anniversaries, Valentine's Day can be another of the painful 'trigger' days.

Ways of Coping

I have pulled together many of the quotes, stories, articles, lyrics, poems, blessings, and suggestions which I hope will be helpful for those who are grieving or just trying to deal with Valentine's Day. As with the suggestions for dealing with Christmas, many of the ways of dealing with the pain and heartache is to reach down and help someone else up.

There is no better exercise for your heart, 
than reaching down and helping to lift someone up.
Bernard Metzer
True Drops of Love 

Do not think that love, in order to be genuine, one has to be extraordinary. 
What we need is to love without getting tired. 

How does a lamp burn?  
Through the continuous input of  small drops of oil. If the drops of oil run out, the light of the lamp will cease. 
What are these drops of oil in our lamps? 
They are the small things of daily life: 
faithfulness, punctuality, small words of kindness, a thought for others, our way of being silent, of looking of speaking,  and of acting. 

These are the true drops of love. 
Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your  strength lies. 

 Mother Teresa 

 Love Quote of the Day's Love Quote of the Day

Kind words toward those you daily meet,
Kind words and actions right,
Will make this life of ours most sweet,
Turn darkness into light.
Isaac Watts
Last updated February 13, 1999
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